What is true love? Words like dedication, compassion, and friendship come to mind. Long-lasting relationships are much more than only about a physical attraction, though physical touch does add to the recipe for success! Keep the intimacy alive between you and your partner through sensual body massage.
Intimacy in a Relationship
The research indicates that sexual satisfaction increases during the first year of a relationship, but steadily decline right after that. This is most likely because couples who have been together for a long time tend to fall into routines. Everyday routines are good as they add order to live. However, routines do not necessarily help keep the romance alive.
What Is A Sensual Massage?
A sensual massage is a type of massage that aims to stimulate the libido or arouse the people involved. A sensual massage is much lighter than a usual massage since it does not aim to help with body pain. Sensual, meaning or relating to the gratification of the senses through physical touch, especially sexual, pleasure is easy to do and fun to enjoy with the help of arousing aromas.
Although a sensual massage does not knead the muscles deeply, it is still extremely relaxing and pleasurable. It’s a great way to de-stress and connect with yourself and your partner emotionally. This type of massage together with aphrodisiac scents will help with sexual dysfunction like erectile dysfunction or female anorgasmia, as well as increase sexual stamina. It can also help improve sleep quality and improve your confidence in your body. Couples performing sensual massage also benefit from the excitement, which can help with maintaining the health of a relationship.
Tips On How To Give A Sensual Massage
If you have never given or received a sensual massage, here’s how you can optimize the experience for you and your partner.
1. Set the Ambience
Get your partner in the mood for relaxation from the start by setting the right ambiance. A soft, seductive ambiance will surely get them in the mood. However, they should also feel comfortable so they can relax and appreciate what is yet to come. How can you set the mood?
- Clean and de-clutter the room before the massage
- Use soft lighting and light candles
- Play calming music
- Ensure your privacy (especially if you have kids)
2. Get Them In The Right Mood
Your partner’s relaxation is of utmost importance in a sensual massage. Make sure that you are not forcing them to take this time away from important things that need to be done. Communicating with your partner and scheduling your massage will help in ensuring that your partner is not thinking of other important responsibilities. You could also start off your massage with a warm essential oil bath that can enhance healthy sexual desire. A warm bath is relaxing and helps the body relax, so it does half the work for you.
3. Be Light On Your Touch
As mentioned earlier, a sensual massage doesn’t aim to relieve muscle tension. The goal is to arouse your partner. So, do not use hard pressure. Keep your pressure light and your strokes long. Use oil to make your movements smoother.
4. Work The Whole Body
In a sensual massage, do not hesitate to touch other parts of your partner’s body. This massage is about stimulating the senses, so find creative ways to do it. Besides rubbing your partner’s body, you may also kiss, nibble, and cuddle them. You could also use your arms and chest to create unique experiences for your partner.
If you’re feeling daring, or are simply ready to take it to the next level, you can eventually start grazing more sensitive areas to intensify your partner’s excitement. Pay attention to how relaxed they are to see if they are ready, as well as to how they respond to your touches. Build anticipation before you reach the final act.
The Sense Of Smell And Sensual Massages
Oils are a staple in any type of massage, including sensual massages. Massage oils serve as lubrication to allow the hands to glide smoothly and painlessly on the skin. Aside from that, massage oils, especially those made with essential oils, also have an effect on the receiver of the massage. Essential oils typically used in massage oils help you relax deeper during the massage. Certain essential oils also help relieve tension and pain. For sensual massages, meanwhile, you can use essential oils that are classified as aphrodisiacs. The best essential oils for sensual massage are Ylang Ylang, Sweet Orange, Grapefruit, Sweet Ginger, Clary Sage, and Lavender.
By using oils in your massage, you can also stimulate your sense of smell. The sense of smell has an influence on emotions, as well as sexual responses. The right scents could help both you and your partner relax. Likewise, certain scents can stimulate sexual responses to enhance the massage experience.
DIY Sensual Massage Oil
Make your sensual massage even more special by making your own sensual massage oil with essential oils.
Oil Massage Recipe 1:
10 tbsp jojoba oil, virgin coconut oil, or your choice of carrier oil
4 drops Ylang Ylang
4 drops Lavender
3 drops Sweet orange
Oil Massage Recipe 2:
10 tbsp sweet almond oil
4 drops Sweet Ginger
3 drops Clary Sage
3 drops Grapefruit
1. In a glass or measuring cylinder, pour in the carrier oil and essential oils of choice.
2. Gently stir the mixture in the glass.
3. Transfer to a glass bottle, preferably an amber glass.
4. Let the massage oil rest for at least twelve hours to allow the oils to mix well.
Massage oils are very easy to make – all you need to do is mix the carrier oil and the essential oils and you’re good to go.
Don’t be shy! Share which recipe will you try.